If you have had any kind of interaction with me at all, you are probably aware that I am really quite anti-social. I have levels of this anti-social behavior which makes sense to (most likely) only me. If someone is a stranger, I would rather pull a tooth than speak to you. If you are a casual acquaintance, I will only speak if directly spoken to or if eye contact is made. Many times this situation will leave me hiding behind displays in the grocery stores to avoid conversing. If I consider you a good person and I enjoy you as a person, I will converse with you at times and ignore you at others (this change is usually associated with my stress level) because I truly do value these people in my lives, I often end up having to justify my anti-social behavior with poor excuses. Finally there is a whole other group of people. These are the people who I consider "Family". These are the people who at times I havent spoken to in a year or so and when we do speak its as if we spoke yesterday. These are the people who I will literally talk your ear off with all my crazy antics, deep ideas, and spiritual experiences. With these people, you literally cannot shut me up. I think most of this boils down to...I do not enjoy small talk...it makes me uncomfortable. All of this being said, I am now getting to the point of this blog...
I FEEL LIKE A CIRCUS FREAK!!! When I go anywhere, strangers are all up in my business. Comments, looks, questions, and opinions about anything and everything. My favorite, and most inappropriate would be the nasty look accompanied by "are those twins? and those other three are they all yours?...FIVE...Wow!"
I have come to the conclusion that I am either going to have to become a recluse, grit my teeth...grin and bear it, or my friend...(he who should remain nameless) believes that this would be my opportunity to be pushed outside my comfort zone and therefore given an ability to grow into a less anti-social person. We will see...
I will finish my thoughts with this: Tuesday I went to the kids school for "Muffins with Mom" and was attacked by many causal acquaintances and snotty nosed children alike. Many for the twin thing...others choose the five children angle...and the finial reason...I set myself up for...You see, Avery refused to wear anything but a sleeveless dress, a superman cape, pink and purple crocks and a princess wand. She proclaimed herself "Super Princess" This wouldn't have been so bad if it hadn't been raining and 50 degrees outside. For all those bloggers who are judging me right now. #1 My first or second would never have gotten away with this #2 The screaming wakes up the babies #3 I am learning that they are more confident children when I allow them to make their own decisions therefore consequences (she was cold and wet) #4 The wise Huband women (Linda and Pat) have given me a gem of a quote "You are not a "real" Mom until you have lost control" All those Moms with either difficult children or more than two kids (I, myself, have both) are so loving this quote right now:)
5 comments:
You are definitely a super princess - not a circus freak! I think we all have anti-social tendencies sometimes! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who has hidden from someone to avoid an uncomfortable conversation while shopping!
I think Avery looks beautiful! Matthew was into dressing up like Superman and totally embaressing me everywhere we went. He had a t-shirt with a cape sewn on the back (it was Jeff's). That was about 3 years ago and people who knew him then still say "Oh look - it's Superman!" He gets totally embaressed now!
Anyone that has had kids should know that they all go through the dress-up and make believe stage. Give them one of your monkey yells when they give you weird looks next time!
I love how you put your feelings into words - I have trouble with that. You are very well spoken for being a circus freak!!
You are awesome (and looking great, might I add). I think you should move to Utah where 5 kids is the norm and there are twins around every corner. You wouldn't get so many looks and comments! My question is this, why does everyone have to say everything they are thinking??? I am one that hopefully keeps my mouth shut (or just says it to Adam) instead of blurting everything out all the time. I just realized that maybe I do say everything I think...hence the comment on your blog!
enjoyable! you are a beauty, as are your kiddos! love the stories, and can't wait to hear more about your friend...
i think the best way to respond to comments like that are just to say, "wow. i can't believe you'd say something like that." it just throws people off and makes them feel like the circus freaks, which is what you really want to do right?!
and i love that you let avery wear whatever she wants. one cold day is just going to teach her to choose better come some other cold day!
Megan~ I loved your comment! My favorite people are those who say what they think as long as they are my friends. Its the judgements of others who think they must offer an opionion and I dont even care enough about them to justify their bad behavior with an explaination of where my head was at. I usually do have a reason why I do the things that I do.
Linda~ The friend is funny about things and I am not sure yet if he wants his name in "lights"
Erin~ Great idea...I must practice that!
Lisa~ Thanks!
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